Fery Vanhemelryck’s blog

Free range kids

Posted by Fery Vanhemelryck op 11 juni 2008

In navolging van het laatste kind in het bos wil ik deze fantastische blog van Lenore Skenazy met jullie delen:


Free range kids is de blog van een journaliste uit New York die haar 9-jarige zoon alleen naar huis liet gaan vanuit hartje Manhattan. Er kwam heel veel protest op uit conservatieve kringen, maar het heeft ook de discussie laten losbarsten. Wat mogen kinderen nog doen zonder begeleiding van een volwassene? Ik kan mij niet herinneren dat mijn ouders mij veel verboden hebben. Ik moest wel voor het eten thuis zijn en ‘voorzichtig’ zijn. Tegenwoordig hoor je steeds vaker dat kinderen overal met de auto naartoe moeten gebracht worden. Hoe kunnen zij dan nog weerbaar zijn als ze eenmaal volwassen zijn? Ik ga mijn best doen om van mijn kinderen Free range kinderen te maken.

Sommige voorbeelden op de blog zijn echt verschrikkelijk, kinderen die geen kraantjeswater meer mogen drinken, geen sneeuw eten, nauwelijks buiten mogen, niets alleen mogen doen. Maar de schrijfster van de blog behandelt alles met een fantastische schrijfstijl en de nodige dosis humor en een zeer uitgebreide kennis van kinderen. Ik vind dat Lenore Skenazy een standbeeld verdient!

Over haar blog (waar je zeker eens moet gaan kijken) vind je hieronder meer info:

When I wrote a column for The New York Sun on “Why I Let My 9-Year-Old Take The Subway Alone,” I figured I’d get a few e-mails pro and con.

Two days later I was on the Today Show, MSNBC, FoxNews and all manner of talk radio with a new title under my smiling face: “America’s Worst Mom?”

Yes, that’s what it took for me to learn just what a hot-button this is — this issue of whether good parents ever let their kids out of their sight. But even as the anchors were having a field day with the story, many of the cameramen and make up people were pulling me aside to say that THEY had been allowed to get around by themselves as kids– and boy were they glad. They relished the memories!

Had the world really become so much more dangerous in just one generation?Yes — in most people’s estimation. But no — not according to the evidence. Over at the think tank STATS.org, where they examine the way the media use statistics, researchers have found that the number of kids getting abducted by strangers actually holds very steady over the years. In 2006, that number was 115, and 40% of them were killed.

Any kid killed is a horrible tragedy. It makes my stomach plunge to even think about it. But when the numbers are about 50 kids in a country of 300 million, it’s also a very random, rare event. It is far more rare, for instance, than dying from a fall off the bed or other furniture. So should we, for safety’s sake, all start sleeping on the floor?

Well, upon reading that, I’m sure that some people will. But — let’s hope it doesn’t catch on. It’s crazy to limit our lives based on fear of a wildy remote danger. And yet, as I started speaking to people about kid safety in the last few days, I heard things that strike me as completely bizarre. One dad in an upscale suburb of New York, for instance, “lets” his 11-year-old walk one block to her best friend’s house –but she has to call the minute she arrives safely.

As if she’s been dodging sniper fire.

Another mom castigated me for my irresponsibility and proudly said that she doesn’t even let her daughter go to the mailbox in her upscale Atlanta neighborhood. There’s just too much “opportunity” for the girl to be snatched and killed. To her, I’m the crazy mom.

People who want me arrested for child abuse were sure that my son had dodged drug dealers, bullies, child molesters and psychopaths on that afternoon subway ride home by himself.

Believe me, if I lived in a city like that, I’d evacuate. But crime wise, New York City is actually on par with Provo, Utah — very safe.

Not that facts make any difference. Somehow, a whole lot of parents are just convinced that nothing outside the home is safe. At the same time, they’re also convinced that their children are helpless to fend for themselves. While most of these parents walked to school as kids, or hiked the woods — or even took public transportation — they can’t imagine their own offspring doing the same thing.

They have lost confidence in everything: Their neighborhood. Their kids. And their own ability to teach their children how to get by in the world. As a result, they batten down the hatches.

And then there are those who don’t.

I’m relieved to report that plenty of letters poured in with exactly the opposite viewpoint. There were more of these, in fact, than the naysayers. Parents from all over the country wrote, “Bravo!” “You’re not a bad mom!” And, “Good for you and good for your son!”

I loved getting these emails and hearing what these parents (and grandparents and friends and relatives) let their little loved ones do, but plenty of them also mentioned the dubious reactions of the other people in their community — sometimes even the other person in their bed.

So I started this site for anyone who thinks that kids need a little more freedom and would like to connect to people who feel the same way.

We are not daredevils. We believe in life jackets and bike helmets and air bags. But we also believe in independence.

Children, like chickens, deserve a life outside the cage. The overprotected life is stunting and stifling, not to mention boring for all concerned.

So here’s to Free Range Kids, raised by Free Range Parents willing to take some heat. I hope this web site encourages us all to think outside the house.



Eén reactie to “Free range kids”

  1. Benjamin said

    Ook een artikel van de blog: Is Snow Going to Kill Your Kid?
    Zalig artikel over ouders die verbieden om hun kinderen sneeuw te laten eten omdat ze er ziek van kunnen worden. Gekke Amerikanen!

    Maar daar moet ik toch één opmerking op geven: There is one thing you have to know, don’t eat the yellow snow!

Geef een reactie

Vul je gegevens in of klik op een icoon om in te loggen.

WordPress.com logo

Je reageert onder je WordPress.com account. Log uit /  Bijwerken )

Google+ photo

Je reageert onder je Google+ account. Log uit /  Bijwerken )


Je reageert onder je Twitter account. Log uit /  Bijwerken )

Facebook foto

Je reageert onder je Facebook account. Log uit /  Bijwerken )


Verbinden met %s

%d bloggers liken dit: